dilletantism, romanticism, charlatanism
I’ve got regrets... but I don’t regret a single day I spent with you.
Wait. I regret one. The one that changed the course of the entire relationship. The one you could never let go of. The one day/morning/moment I can never take back.
You wanted it to work. We both did.
I frustrated you. In that critical first moment. And I broke your heart. And our relationship...
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I thought I saw a man brought to life
He was warm - he came around like
He was dignified
He showed me what it was to cry
Well you couldn’t be that man I adored
You don’t seem to know - don’t seem to care
What your heart is for
No I don’t know him anymore
So I guess the fortune teller’s right
I should have seen just what was there
And not some holy light
But you crawled beneath my veins
And now I don’t care
I have no luck
I don’t miss it all that much
There’s just so many things
That I can’t touch
There’s nothing where he used to lie
My conversation has run dry
That’s what is goin’ on
Nothin’s right
I’m torn
I’m all out of faith
This is how I feel
I’m cold and I am shamed
Lying naked on the floor
Illusion never changed
Into something real
I’m wide awake
And I can see the perfect sky is torn
You’re a little late
I’m already torn
One may bask at the warm fire of faith or choose to live in the bleak uncertainty of reason — but one cannot have both.
Torn
“Can you tell me why you like me so much?”
The question she asked was sincere. She’s looking up at me, with those deep brown eyes... yearning for an answer. I don’t have one.
Does it matter why, my love? Is it not enough that we are here, right now, in this moment? What purpose will it serve feeding your ego at this moment.
Yet it does matter. She’s visibly getting angry. She’s been hurt before. She wants to know that this is real. That it will last. That I’m the one.
Yes, this is real. No, it will not last. No, I’m no one.
I am only here to remind you how to love. How to feel again.
They say everything happens for a reason. I disagree. Perhaps I’m wrong, but I don’t believe everything happens for a reason we are humanly aware of.
I can’t tell you why I “like you so much.” I am still trying to figure that out.
Yet I do. Like you. I like this moment. I love providing you glimpses of safety and security. I love being inside you. I love your touch. Your smell. Your taste.
I sense that you want me to tell you that this is permanent. Nothing is permanent, my love. Forever doesn’t exist for people like us. We are here now. Can’t we enjoy the now? Without clouding it with the fear of the future? Because it is fear. You’re already dreading the thought of being without me.
Let’s enjoy this moment now. So what if I can’t tell you why.
“Come. Shower with me.”
This weekend, you closed your curtains, locked your doors, turned off the lights, and ate presweetened morning breakfast cereal, with little marshmallows! You spent $7.
I’ve been living simply. It’s time to live... larger, but that’s a conversation for another time.
Anyway, I’m living near my girl, in a shitbox studio, with only furniture and dishes and such that I didn’t pay for. An easier exit for when it’s time to depart. There is always an approaching departure time.
What’s that old axiom? Oh yeah, “Beggars can’t be choosers.”
I would not have chosen the dinnerware I’m using. They’re black. Rather boring. And HUGE!
The bowl, for example, seems to hold twice the amount of cereal as my previous bowls. Now, I really shouldn’t be eating cereal anyway—processed poison and all that—but frankly, I really don’t care at this moment. I’m immortal. Why would I?
After yesterday, I can tell you that the bowls are large enough to finish a box of cereal in five bowls.
Now, ask how lousy I feel after consuming an entire box of cereal in one day...
I have been educating myself on addiction lately. What constitutes an addiction to, for instance, alcohol?
And I have come up with this formula: If I leave a full (or partial) bottle of whiskey (tequila, vodka) at your apartment, will it be waiting for me when I return?
I’ve learned that in many cases, this answer is no. A reasonable pre-qualifier for that next “less dramatic” girlfriend? Sure.
And, applying this algorithm, I have a “healthy relationship” with alcohol.
Cereal, on the other hand... fuck.
You said,
“Tell me where you’ve been, love.”
And I thought of all the lost roads,
and dark corners,
and heavy work,
and heartbreak,
and all of the healing.
And I just said...
“On my way here.”
Love is giving someone the power to destroy you and trusting they won’t use it.
I have been thinking a lot about life and love lately—in the shadow of so much death. I suppose we each handle death in our own ways. I suppose.
And I’ve been getting to know someone. She’s an incredible young woman. Beautiful and vibrant. Curious and sensitive. At the risk of sounding cliché, I can see the future in her eyes.
Those deep, beautiful brown eyes.
The speed with which we went from strangers to intimate was breathtaking, yet organic. It’s like we’ve always known each other, yet each yearns to learn more.
But she’s afraid. Of the cascade of emotions. And this is what breaks my heart.
We’re taught that emotions are weakness. We’re taught that we can think ourselves out of crisis.
This society has created a lot of people out there who are not capable of true love, which ruins the field for those of us who are capable of nothing else.
So, she has found someone who loves her and will take care of her. And she has withdrawn. If this is the end of the affair, I will be sad, yet without regret. She knows who I am. We are no longer strangers.
In the shadow of death, however, I fear losing her… and all of my loved ones. Losing contact.
At any moment, my light could go out. Or hers. Flame extinguished. And if we’re out of touch, how would the other know?
Imagine, the horror of discovering the one person you had to build up the courage to join, the one you want to pursue your fantasies and desires with... only to find he or she passed away a few weeks ago. Isn’t it better to experience waves of the good feelings over the bad?
We’re all going to burn out. All of us. Death is not a trend, it’s a part of life. We need to stop losing our valuable time thinking about what could happen and risk a little heartbreak. The love we gain is worth it, and we deserve to feel loved. Wanted. Desired.
Discovered today this li’l nugget written August 29 of last year.
Our paths may never cross again
Maybe my heart will never mend
But I'm glad for all the good times
Cause you've brought me so much sunshine
And love was the best it's ever been
They say that all good things must end
Loves comes and goes just like the wind
You've got your dreams to follow
But if I had the chance tomorrow
You know I'd do it all again
I wouldn't have missed it for the world
Wouldn't have missed loving you girl (ooh, ooh, ooh)
You've made my whole life worth while
With your smile
I wouldn't trade one memory
'Cause you mean too much to me (ooh, ooh, ooh)
Even though I lost you girl
I wouldn't have missed it for the world
I Wouldn't Have Missed It...
I am beginning to find solace in reading again.
Basking in my solitude, you might say. Friends come and friends go. Lovers too.
Yet, a good book can be revisited over and over. If only one could read them all...
Last year was not one for reading. On the contrary, it was one for distraction. Elation and heartbreak.
However, this year may bring a return to reading. And hopefully writing. Life creates so many ideas that I yearn to capture. Plus, if anyone can learn from my pain... my shortcomings... then, perhaps, a memoir is worth finishing. If only to save one jackass from tainting the spirit of love with his beloved...
But I digress.
Please find below, the list of books read in 2024:
Alone.
Some of the great prose out there suggests that we’re born alone and we die alone.
I used to embrace that.
Basking in my solitude.
Now?
Something’s missing.
I let a lovely young woman into my life. I no longer wanted to be alone. I no longer wanted to leave no legacy.
Yet, when I saw her yesterday, I knew. Something’s changed. She’s calm. She’s satisfied.
And I’m no longer her fantasy.
I wonder what happened? Did she meet someone new? Reconnect with someone old?
Does it even matter?
She’s so beautiful. And she was mine.
Yet, I still could never say the words. I was arrested by her presence. Each. And every. Time.
This is why I deserve to be alone.
Hours on the phone each day leave a massive void. And all of the notifications, from my favorite person, are now few and far between.
Why even have a phone at this point?