Once inside a woman's heart / a man must keep his head / Heaven opens up the door / where angels fear to tread / Some men go crazy, some men go slow / Some men go just where they want / Some men never go.

Beautiful song. This week I hear it through a different filter. The verse above speaks to me, as a man who is continually struggling with falling in love. With wanderlust. With indecision.

A friend recently noted that, he has transformed. He no longer falls in love and out of himself and his grounding, like his wounded self used to do.

Wow.

He went on to explain he met, and LOVED this incredibly gorgeous woman in body, soul, and mind—yet didn’t FALL in love. Staying grounded, he felt by NOT falling in love allowed HER the space to fall into HIM in love. That a man falling in love is a type of theft of the feminine energy and robs women of the gift of masculine stability. “To lean on, to hold on, to drape themselves over, and to fall into.”

Incredible. And the timeliness of this conversation is uncanny. As one who struggles with falling in love with every girl he meets. As one who has taken a step back. Or two. And watches her advance to close the gap.

What a beautiful way to put it. Falling in love is the woman’s job. The man’s is to love her, yet allow her the space to fall.

If I practice and succeed at nothing else this year, let this lesson thrive within me.

What i'm listening to:

Shame on the Moon
Bob Seger
The Distance