What do you do when the life you are ready for is attacked by the life you never wanted?

If I only knew then what I know now...

I have said this before: not everyone should buy a house. Don Draper was right when it comes to looking at your decisions—is that what YOU want, or what someone else wants for you? This applies to so much in life.

When you see your friends getting married, buying houses, etc., you need to really examine if what you are feeling is because you want to be part of THAT club... or if it’s a misplaced hunger for a very different purpose.

For instance, I have always felt drawn to travel. I LOVE the idea of living somewhere just long enough to make some friends and feel comfortable—and then move on, and do it all over again. No real ties.

Except, due to bad decisions in the past, you have ties. You have a dog that you love dearly and lives almost to fifteen years. You bought into the peer pressure of the “American dream” and you bought a house while you have that nomadic mindset. You don’t want to fix your house. You want to leave your house.

You accumulated so much stuff to fill that void of unfulfilled dreams. So much stuff. What to do with it? Try to sell it, missing out on opportunities while waiting for it to sell? Donate all of it? Invite your friends over for them to make an offering for anything they want?

Since you haven’t had a landlord, and you’ve hated living in this house, it needs work. Quite a bit. Do you invest in fixing it to get best possible price for it—knowing you may invest more than you’ll reap? Or do you sell “as is” and walk away with the cash in your pocket—enough for a plane ticket to Jakarta to start your dream?

Or do you drink too much, pick up a girl at the local bar for a night of hot passion, knock her up, and trap yourself here—permanently?

Believe it or not, I am close to a decision. It is time to consider lost opportunity costs over any potential gains here. The dream is out there, and within reach for the first time ever. The dogs are gone, and only wanted you to be happy anyway. The girls are as well.

It’s time to celebrate. You’re figuring it out... and the time to move on is approaching. Don’t let them pay you to give up on your dream ever again.

But know this—real life is not going to make this easy...

What i'm listening to:

Justify My Love
Madonna
The Immaculate Collection