Saturday, March 28, 2026, 9:26 am

Absurdity in judgment

Sometimes starting over looks like a mattress—albeit, a made mattress, complete with all of the trimmings—on the floor.

No box spring. No frame. At some point, those will be nice. Some decisions need to be made first. There’s a cool floating bed frame on the Amazon I’m eyeing...

My best friend looked at me, incredulously, after I told him that she and I spent 72 hours in bed. Wearing nothing.

He looks right into my eyes. “Do you really want to be with a woman who sleeps with a guy who has a mattress on the floor? And stays? For three days?”

Wait. I AM that guy. And yes. I want her. Here. Every. Night. Bed frame or no.

I can’t believe we’re even having this discussion. Am I supposed to postpone dating, fucking, et al, until I get my life together enough to get a bed frame?

Hell, maybe I am doing this life thing... wrong. Because I am... minimal. Because I don’t want... stuff. I don’t want anything that won’t fit in the car when it’s time to eject.

That day may be closer than I think. I still want her here though.

She wants more, yes. So do I. Yet, she doesn’t judge me because my apartment is... sparse. At least it’s quiet. No one can hear what we do. We can’t hear what others do.

Do I fear losing her to someone who can offer her... more? Maybe. I’m not naïve enough to believe that all we need is love.

She is drawn to excitement. And drama. My life currently lacks excitement. And always lacks drama.

Yet, she loves the “experience” I offer her. Is she susceptible to the experience another may offer her? Of course. She is my butterfly. I will enjoy her while she is present.

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